Have you ever had an expectation that your birthday was going to be amazing, only it wasn’t? I’ve had several birthdays that didn’t quite turn out the way I wanted them to. Either I didn’t make the time to celebrate or I had an expectation that wasn’t met. One year when friends surprised me, I was so overwhelmed with being the center of attention I actually started crying. This year I decided to take charge of my day and plan out exactly what I wanted to do. As an added twist I also happen to share my birthday with my 16-year-old daughter.
I have planned many events and I have come to learn that the best plans begin with a good set up. A good set-up can be achieved by answering just three simple questions:
1. What’s the story I want to tell?
How would I like to remember my birthday? I start at the end first. I think about how I want to feel the next day. When I wake up, I want to know that I had an amazing night, and I would love to experience it all over again.
2. What do we like doing?
What makes us feel happy? We love walking around exploring new places, trying different foods, and listening to cool music.
3. Who’s invited?
Who would have the most fun with us? Who do we have fun laughing and celebrating with? My best friend and her daughter quickly came to mind.
By spending a little time with this simple set up, we created the best birthday either of us has had in a long time. It all began in the height of music, fun, and positive energy at the Eminem & Rihanna concert. Then we settled in the quaint but cozy beach town of Newport, RI. We walked the streets, toured beautiful mansions, and woke up the next morning wishing we could go back to sleep and experience it all over again. Taking time for the set up may seem awkward at first. When in reality, thinking through what we really want actually means we’re much more likely to get it.
Have a beautiful week!