I usually consider myself a patient person, but sometimes I lose my s*** and I take it out on the people I love. Yesterday I was stressed trying to meet a deadline on a project, the kids needed attention, my husband was waiting for a ride home at the train station, and everyone was asking the dreaded question of “what’s for dinner” (which is a blog all on its own), I just snapped and started yelling at everyone. When my rant was finished I was embarrassed and I felt terrible. I quickly owned my nasty behavior and apologized. While I was grateful for my family’s forgiveness it got me thinking; what is the real purpose of saying, "sorry"?
We are human and humans are imperfect and we all make mistakes. Saying "sorry" is important, it acknowledges that we are aware of our mistake, aware that we did something we didn’t intend to do, or worse aware of the fact that we hurt someone’s feelings. It’s important to take a deeper look at our behavior and make the necessary adjustments to correct it.
What an apology is:
An apology is the last chance to catch ourselves and make a “wrong” a “right”. An apology is an expression of love. It is an opportunity to grow and learn; to be the parent, partner, lover, friend or coworker that we have always wanted to be!
What an apology is not:
An apology is not a free pass to run around speaking without a filter. Apologies should not let us off the hook, or be used as an excuse for bad behavior. Apologies should not be tossed around lightly.
Apologies don’t mean anything if we don’t adjust our behavior, we actually have to change. For me I need to plan ahead when I have a due date, organize my time and not leave it until the last minute. So the next time you make a mistake and apologize for your behavior, be grateful for the chance to look at yourself a little bit differently and make the changes on a deeper level. You will be happy you did and so will the people you love!
Have a beautiful week!
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